Everyrhing Is An Investment

Most things are an investment of your time, money, health or emotions, i.e. they WILL result with a cost, return or both. You have to manage them wisely to be profitable. That goes for emotional investments and returns in relations with people, too.

Best Life Assets

(1)Health, (2)money, (3)looks, intelligence/strategic mind, and (4)people skills, in that order, are the most effective assets in life. Got the first and some of the last two. Working on the money part.

Blame & Victim Plays

You get from people what you want by putting some sort of blame on them or by presenting yourself as a victim in a situation where someone puts the blame on you/is angry with you.

Straight On Goal

You either aim directly for what you want or wait and stay with nothing actually. It's push the button theory, which says that if you want x you press the x button, not others.

Women & Stocks

Before reading this post, you got understand this is a jocular(!) one. Picking and approaching a woman is like chosing and buying a stock. You pick the right one, picke the right moment to get in, wait to get what you want, and get out before it starts hurting your pocket.

Probablity Games

Once, I wrote that most things in life are games. But then, some games are played over time. They are probability games. You get certain skills, assets that you know will in turn earn you something when the right opportunity comes.

You study, cause when the right job offer comes, you're ready for it. You think of better clothing style, so that when the right guy/girl comes at you, he/she won't run away (at least not just at first sight;P). You learn languages in case you get a good job in a different country. You take on new skills in case you have to/to change your line of work when technnology not humans takes care of some tasks.

But there are far more complex probability games in life that let you win big or lose big if you don't play them. One of them is, for instance, getting around and getting to know the right people. Others are negotiations, handling people relations, achieving your goals with people. There are even more important ones, which I may not know of, and competition does.

Refuge In Money

(Earning) Money seems to be the most reliable refuge. It brings you piece, feeling of safety, solves many (if not most) problems, gives you comfort in very simple ways, and makes a lot of things easier with people.

Wantings

It's good to stop once a quarter or so and spend a couple of hours rethinking what you really want. Sounds trivial. Yet being reassured on what you really want empowers you to spend the time on the right things to achieve it. Knowing what one wants is often a challenge and knowing it is half-way to success. And the less goals or dreams the more probable it is you'll make them come true.

Deals & Games

Most things in life, if not all, are games and deals. Games and deals is something you can get good at. And in fact, you better do.

I-Message

I had behavior schemes for number of situations. Schemes for, in my mind, getting people to give me what I need. Then one of my new friends turned out to be a psychologist. She learned my theories and said that they all in fact come down to one psychological concept, term: I-messages. This means that if you want to get what you want, you keep being honest about it and say it they way you feel it. This goes mainly for friendships and romantic relations.

The Love Equation is A=Nx(3xB)

Attraction is body, brains and... bond working between two people. N is the number of people feeling it and it can be either 2 or nothing (one counts for 0 then). It is a multiplication because if any of the elemements is 0 than the whole thing is a 0, that is it won't work. I discovered the second element of the equation only in the age of 24. The third just now in the age of 28.

Bonds

Real bonds with women are dangerous.

Reliable vs. unreliable

There are people who are made for long-run relationships and those who are made for 'no strings attached' only. You have to understand which type you are and know how to recognize what type other people are. Plus, remember that this may change and that people can be different from what they say or think themselves.

What Next? Up!

If you don't know where to go next in your life, get a promotion, get a better job, broaden your education, build new thing/get into another project. Go forward, go up.

What Next?

Till the age of 25-26 things seem to be simple life in at least in one respect, i.e. knowing what next. The social norm provides up untill then (degree and job). But when you start nearing 30, things aren't that obvious any more. Sure, you got ideas and dreams, but momentum to make daring changes is not that definite.

Love Temporary

Every possible love is always finite. Parents die, children leave for their own life, and romantic relationships end as soon the chemical reactions end or change due to personality change. So love is like money. It's a supply you run out of and still need it. That's why you need to get yourself new streams of it and providers. Every good business knows how to diversify income channels. Every connection, just like marchendise or service, has its product life cycle. Each has its expire date, only you never know when it comes.

More "No" is more "Yes"

The more often you say "No" to people, the more often you get "Yes" from them.

Games

Certain things are more fun when they're a game to you. Like career. Other work better when they got no games to them. Like family, friends and relationships (other than the romantic, bed and chase games). If you stop treating your career as a game, in which you get higher and higher, you'll end up unemployed. If you make your social life just a game, you'll end up lonely because people don't like to be played.

Feelings Are Like Stocks (or Money)

If you don't go about them the right way, you'll end up (heart) broke(n). The first safety rule of investing in stocks is portfolio diversification (never buy stocks of just one company), i.e. get yourself many and ever more friends.

Juggle Theory

Making new connections is like juggling. You have to totally not care about the fall (be cool about it). Only then will you put it out of your head and focus just on doing it right. With time you get better and pick better objects to juggle with and you juggle better.

Gamers

People who are (overly/very) self-confident at some point like games more than real connections. This goes as much for boys as for girls.

Snake Of Attachment

Attachment is like a snake. It takes you aback. It attacks on the back. It is hard to fight back. It takes back your experience on not engaging. Finally, its either you or the snake. But I do have plenty of right tools.

Facebook Surprises

Facebook is full of surprises as even when you look through your friend list, not just the invites, you'll very often end up saying "Who the f... is this guy?".

There Are No Exceptional Women

There are no exceptional people/women... but there are exceptional ways to make them feel and look special and to make the connection extraordinary.

Money Buys Happines

Money does buy happiness if you know what you want.

You Never Know If One Sparrow Is Better Than Two

Certain things are more fun in friendship and some in a relationship. The problem, however, most often is that if you want to go from friendship to relationship, the fun may be lost altogether. At the same time you don't know if the thing is actually more fun in a relationship or friendship. It's all a gamble.

The Art Of Second Choice

In groups you'll often have stars (suns) and people more modest in behavior (moons). If you give yourself into the first impression, you'll almost always will be drawn to the sun first. But if you study closer, the moon is more fun. Eventually, a night with full moon so much more pleasure than having your eyes damaged by staring at the sun.

Doses are better

Some things make your life better only if they're always in it. Some, however, make life better only if they come up in doses or otherwise they become so common they aren't fun anymore.

People who really like you

People who like you just for who you are, are like eclipse. They appear once in ages and you still often miss them or are in the wrong place to see them.