There are 9 spaces in a relationship I became aware of in my relationships. Sometimes there's also ten and eleven, culture and religion, but I didn't list them as they rarely played a role (they'd sabotage the relationship right at the start). I list them in order of how critical they are to the relationship.
1) Bed,
2) conversation,
3) emotional resonance (understanding),
4) positive energy (coming from your interactions),
5) spending time (not getting bored with one another, also being able to take rest from one another),
6) socal life (biggest problem in relationships of strong introversts with strong extraverts or if one person is the jelous type),
7) self-development/future plans, phase of life you're in, lifestyle (career, friends, journeys, fun vs. building something in life),
8) things you wanna do with or without your partner (things that you think of 'I want to...' instead of 'I want to... with him/her'),
9) empty space.
The more spaces work in your relationship, the more chance for it's continuation.
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